You’re afraid to talk about your scab in case people reject you, so you wear a mask, live on two levels and become insecure and controlling. Worst of all, you’re so busy working for God and taking care of others that you don’t think you’ve time to stop and take care of yourself. The Bible says: ‘Physician, heal yourself!’
Does this mean people with issues can’t work for God? No, quite the opposite. It’s the broken, who become masters at mending. But first you must take time to be healed. Jesus said that when the blind lead the blind they both fall into a ditch (See Matthew 15:14). It’s hard to talk about victory to others when you yourself are living in defeat. It’s hard to bring emotional healing to others when you’re still battling the unresolved issues of your past.
When you are still bleeding, you can’t treat peoples problems with the same kind of aggressive faith you’d have if you’d already worked through the problem. Is it wrong to have a wounded heart? No, but it’s wrong not to deal with it. So, spend time with God and let Him make you whole so that He can use you to minister more effectively to others.